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Angry gets shit done

Angry gets shit done

Need motivation to get something done? How about anger? Angry gets shit done.

Have you ever been told by someone close to you that you could not accomplish something? For example, ever been told by your spouse not to do something. My wife actually told me that she didn’t think I should install the fire alarm myself. She believed that it would be an electric fire hazard. It would be ironic to have a fire started by a fire alarm. I’m not saying this to ridicule my wife, she simply tends to be very paranoid. My point is, the only effect of her saying that was it made me angry. I felt she was calling me incompetent, or at least incapable. I wanted to prove her wrong. I wanted to drop what I was doing and immediately install the fire alarm. Had she asked me to do it, it probably would have just gone on my to do list.

Angry gets shit done.

Is there someone in your life who you dislike being confronted by? Perhaps it’s you spouse who tells you can or cannot do something. Perhaps you have brother or sister and some sibling rivalry. Perhaps your parents don’t believe you can accomplish something. This is likely someone close to you who you love. But, at the same time this closeness makes their contradictory opinion even more hurtful. Would you do almost anything to prove this person wrong? Maybe there’s even extreme cases where you would accept losses in money, time or material goods to prove that person wrong.

That’s called motivation.

We all have self doubt. We all have an inner dialogue that is sometimes negative. When you begin to have these negative thoughts or feeling, imagine them being said by that one person you would absolutely hate to have say it.  Over time you may be able to that negative inner dialogue into motivation.

P.S. I hope she doesn’t read this blog. She could use this tactic to get me to do all kinds of things with a little reverse psychology.

The Rules for Your Subconscious

The Rules for Your Subconscious

  1. The subconscious mind works to make what it expects into reality.
  2. The subconscious mind has its own language.
  3. The subconscious mind does not reason.
  4. The subconscious mind may not make logical sense.
  5. The subconscious mind does not recognize negatives.
  6. The subconscious mind does not understand time.
  7. The subconscious mind processes everything it recieves.
  8. The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between imagined and real.
  9. Imagination beats knowledge.
  10. You cannot hold opposing beliefs at the same time.
  11. The subconscious mind cannot retain beliefs that are proven wrong.
  12. The subconscious mind retains all beliefs until they are replaced.
  13. Each belief realized makes it easier for successive beliefs.
  14. Conscious effort decreases subconscious response.


1. The subconscious mind works to make what it expects into reality

Your brain and nervous system respond to the the images held in the subconscious. It becomes a blueprint that you follow.


2. The subconscious mind has its own language.

Your unconscious deals in images, emotions and sensory input. It does not process language. For example, if you think of the word car, you are likely to get an image of the car you drive.

Words with no image or emotion attached to them have no meaning to your subconscious. This is the reason you want to use you imagination to craft images for your subconscious. Words and language may not get properly translated. If you create a mental picture of your desired state there is less chance of miscommunication.


3. The subconscious mind does not reason.

Your subconscious does not try to reason. It does not attempt to think through beliefs. It will simply hold them. For example, as a child you may have been told that you should not talk to strangers. It is likely you still have and recognize this belief as an adult. You no longer need this belief, but your unconscious does not think about it.

A person with a strongly held religious, political or emotional belief will not respond to counter arguments. Such beliefs cannot be over turned with logical arguments.

Your subconscious will seek out supporting experiences. Groups of individuals can come together over shared belief. This validates and reinforces the belief.


4. The subconscious mind may not make logical sense

Your subconscious may connect emotions, images and sensory input in way that are not logical. You may experience fear of the dark or hear strange noises while watching a scary movie. Your conscious mind is aware that there is no danger but that will do little to calm your fear.


5. The subconscious mind does not recognize negatives.

Your subconscious deals in images not words. The phrase “I will not smoke” will translate to an image of smoking. The negative does not have an associated image and will get lost. This may actually reinforce the opposite of the intended belief.


6. The subconscious mind does not understand time

Your subconscious knows only the present time. It is concerned with your immediate well being and happiness. Goals set in the future will no immediate action are disregarded until they are imminent. This is the cycle of procrastination. When the conscious mind realizes the goal is approaching you go into panic mode. The subconscious goes to work to alleviate the discomfort.


7. The subconscious mind processes everything it receives

Your subconscious process all the images, emotions and sensory input you receive. It does not filter the input. Any positive or negative experience can generate a new belief or reinforce an existing belief.


8. The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between imagined and real

Your subconscious will respond to imagination and visualization as it were reality. For example, you may react physically to a dream with sweat or elevated heart rate. It may take several minutes after you wake for you to realize you had dream. A particularly vivid dream may remain in your thoughts.


9. Imagination beats knowledge

Your subconscious mind responds to images and emotions. What you know will not over power them. For example, people with a fear of flying know it is statistically safer to fly than drive a car. Despite that knowledge they still fear flying. But they will drive their cars without a second thought.


10. You cannot hold opposing beliefs at the same time

Your subconscious will not have two directly opposite beliefs at the same time. It will believe one and disregard the other. People with a religious belief in creationism will not also believe in evolution. Nor will someone with a belief in science and evolution believe in creationism. An argument like intelligent design at it’s heart supports the creationism belief.


11. The subconscious mind cannot retain beliefs that are proven wrong

Introducing evidence that disproves a belief will cause that belief to be dismissed. For example, you may believe that you cannot run a marathon. If you were to train and become proficient at running you would be submitting evidence that you can run a marathon. Any opposing belief would be dismissed.


12. The subconscious mind retains all beliefs until they are replaced

Your subconscious will retain all of your beliefs. Including the beliefs from childhood. All of our experiences shape the person we are. The longer a belief is held, the more ingrained it becomes. To change a belief you must replace it with another belief.


13. Each belief realized makes it easier for successive beliefs

Every belief, suggestion or goal that you act on and achieve makes it easier to achieve the next. Successfully completing small commitments leads to more successes. Similarly failure can breed additional failure.


14. Conscious effort decreases subconscious response

An example of this phenomenon is insomnia. When you try to consciously force yourself to sleep the less likely you are to fall asleep. The key is to distract the conscious mind and prevent it from focusing on sleeping.

Hypnotize Yourself

Hypnotize Yourself

The plan

The last 15 minutes of the day

Highway hypnosis is an example of how you’ve already been hypnotized. Your subconscious mind simply took over the tasks of driving. The next step is to use your subconscious to accomplish tasks that you decide. You want to program yourself.

For example, let’s say you have a job interview the next day. Normally you might go to bed anxious. This is a very normal reaction. As a result, your a likely to anxious in the interview. Your palms may sweat. You may assume a closed posture. You may stutter when you speak. These are the physical manifestations of an anxious subconscious.

To change this you want to use the last 15 minutes of your day. At night before bed you enter into a natural receptive state for suggestion. This is the time you can replace random or negative thoughts with positive thoughts.

You will want to visualize yourself walking into the interview confident and with your head held high. You’ll want to imagine a strong confident handshake greeting. You’ll want to imagine a relaxed, open posture. You’ll want to imagine speaking clearly and distinctly and giving the perfect answers to any questions.

The subsconscious cannot tell the difference between a visualization and reality. Use your imagination to construct images in your mind of how you would want the interview to go.

Your subconscious will also act in accordance with it’s expectations. You are purposefully setting your expectations on a positive experience and outcome. Your subconscious will then work toward that goal. Instead of expecting to be anxious, you will be expecting to have a good interview.

Dan Candell talks about using the last few minutes of each night to hypnotize yourself in the following video. He talks about seeting the expectations for the following day in your mind.

Affirmations

The last 30 minutes of the day is also a good time to repeat some affirmations. The subconscious responds to repitition. The more you repeat a belief the more engrained it becomes.

For example, the following are some messages that you may want tell yourself

  • I am good at my job
  • I am confident
  • I am smart
  • I like challenges because they help me grow

You will want to make list of the messages you want. That way you can repeat the same messages each night.

Your subconsious will be skeptical of anything that contradicts an already established belief. For example, perhaps you believe you are not smart. Maybe you’ve struggled with a particular subject and had a low test score. This has indirectly told you are not smart. Perhaps then your own inner dialogue dwelled on the idea and you’ve inadvertently reinforced it into a stringly held belief.

You will find it harder to overturn this belief. You may need a very specific message to overcome it. Find a positive belief you hold and build on that. Ask yourself what subjects are you good at or when have you been smart. Build on those positive beliefs while chipping away at the negative ones. Construct your affirmation list to be specific for you.

Draw your future

You’ve learned how to use your imagination to construct visualizations. These will be pictures in your head. The human brain relies heavily on vision.

Patti Dobrowolski says a picture is a way of visualizing your goals. She encourages you to draw a physical picture of the goals you want to achieve. That’s right, get a piece of paper and pencil an draw. Just like writing helps you remember more than listening, drawing will help you remember more than just visualizing. Better yet, you will then have a drawing you a pick up and look at each night. That repitition will help plant it into your subconscious

Change Your Inner Dialogue

Change Your Inner Dialogue

We have all had negative self thoughts.  These are the times you’ve said to yourself “I can
‘t do that” or “I’m not qualified”.  These thoughts are coming from your subconscious.  This is the part of brain you are not aware of. 

Your brain has three layers.  The outer layer or the neocortex is where your conscious mind lives.  It’s the rational brain you commonly think of.  Below that are more primitive layers.  There is the older limbic brain where your emotions from.  This is why it is sometimes hard to express how you feel, since emotion and rational thought are from two different systems. Finally, at the core you have the reptilian brain which is instinctual and handle routine functions like heartbeat and breathing. The subconscious mind is composed of the limbic and reptilian layers.

The subconscious is  key in terms of your self esteem. This is essentially the inner dialogue that directs your day.  let’s talk about some examples of the subconscious at work.

Subconscious at Work

Have you ever experienced this particular phenomenon while driving? You’ve been driving along and suddenly you realize you can’t remember the last couple of turns or red lights that you’ve actually passed. You think back and say, was that last red light I went through was that green or red? Or maybe you’ve been driving on the highway and suddenly realize you can’t recall the last few miles. What has happened is your conscious mind got distracted. That is why you can’t remember. Your subconscious mind took over the driving task. It may be a scary feeling, but don’t worry your subconscious is a very good driver due to the ten thousand hour rule.

The ten thousand hour rule is something that is used in athletic settings. The basic idea is that if you practice a task for ten thousand hours you will become an expert at it. For example if you want to be a NFL Football field goal kicker, practice for ten thousand hours. If you were to practice 3 hours a day it would take 9 years to reach ten thousand hours. The idea behind the rule is that it takes time and repetition to become an expert.

It is really the subconscious at work. That time and repetition will program your brain and autonomic nervous system. Your subconscious can now kick field goals without your conscious mind focusing on it. The same goes for driving. After years of driving, you programmed your subconscious to be able to drive. You simply do not need to think about it.

The term for driving without conscious awareness is “highway hypnosis”.

Remember when you learned to ride a bike? You probably started with training wheels and had difficulty balancing. But with practice the task became easier and easier. Finally it reach the point where you no longer need to concentrate on it. You programmed your subconscious to ride a bike. And it was likely in significantly less than ten thousand hours.

Can you walk down the street while completely engaged in conversation with the person next to you, or on your cell phone? Your subconscious is handling the walking.

Driving, riding an bike and walking are just three examples that you have already programmed your subconsious. Imagine what else you could program your subconsious mind to do.

Have you ever delayed a big decision until you have had chance to sleep on it? Perhaps you even felt exhausted thinking about it and thought you would get a fresh perspective in the morning.

Have you ever solved a problem in the shower? Maybe there’s been a problem at work you’ve been unable to solve. In the morning you get up, shower and start thinking about your day and realize there’s something you hadn’t thought of the day before.

These examples are times when you’ve given your subconscious time to work on something. The subconscious is actually at work during the night. The following are few examples of what it does.

  • consolidating and categorizing memories
  • synthesize proteins and hormones
  • immune system functions

Put Your Subconscious to Work for You

You’ve probably not given too much thought to your subconscious.  But it has been paying attention your entire life.  It has formed a set of beliefs and these are your inner dialogue.  If it’s saying negative things or lowering your self esteem, then it’s time to change those beliefs.

How do you do that?

The plan